Author: Mr DDU.
We have a dream that one day we will be parents.
The doctor sent us to have lots of tests done to see if there were any issues that could be identified.
It turns out there are problems with both of us and that IVF would be our only option, if it is an option. The last year has been really difficult for us emotionally, lots of worst-case scenarios have gone though our heads. Will we ever be parents? Can we even have children? How will we afford this? Can we even do IVF? But we are progressing through the steps to start IVF and hopefully we will have baby at the end of it.
February 2016 Update
It is a mandatory requirement by the Australian State of Victoria that every patient going through the IVF process has to have one counselling session, this is what we had yesterday. The counselling was broken down into 2 sections: a pricing & costs conversation and an information/discussion of the process/therapist session.
We had the prices conversation first..which was quite daunting. Even with Government help the first cycle will cost us over $7,000 ish then the subsequent cycles will be about $4k each. We roughly knew these figures but it’s intimidating seeing it spelt out like that (and this is all before the normal costs of a baby). We also learned that the prices of everything are going up by a couple of hundred dollars on the 1st July, so this got us thinking that perhaps instead of starting IVF in June, we’d start in May – the main reason being we get our baby earlier, but we also save a few hundred dollars starting earlier and every saving helps.
The second conversation was the first time I’d seen a therapist. There was a lot of information explaining what each step was and when we would be doing it, which was useful but it was also a lot to take in. We also explored our thoughts and feelings on how IVF had affected us, how we support each other, what we’d feel if IVF didn’t work. My wife & I are in a good mental place, 6 months ago we weren’t, so talking about past feelings that we don’t have any more wasn’t really confronting.
The part that’s most confronting for us at the moment is the financial side of it. We know what we want but we have no idea how much it’s going to cost, we don’t know how many cycles it’s going to take. Will we need to burn through all of our savings to make this happen? Every extra dollar we have to spend makes us further away from buying a house, makes a share purchase further away, makes us weaker financially. We don’t know if we will be successful, even after spending all this money. This is a very foreboding thought, it makes us anxious. Is going through all of this worth it for the chance to have a child though? Yes.
So now we’ve decided we’re now going to start IVF in May, hopefully we get our baby one month earlier and this journey and all the waiting will be worth it. We’ve certainly shown the universe how much we want our baby.
Thanks for reading this article about our investing (and trying to get a baby) journey Down Under.
Onwards and upwards!