IVF Baby Progress Update

By | May 22, 2016

Our IVF cycle was cancelled - dividends down under blog

Author: Mr DDU.

A couple of weeks ago we had the big week, when the magic was scheduled to happen. We had already paid for the IVF procedures and the drugs. We checked into our hotel the day before, near to the hospital where our IVF would be happening.

We were feeling excited, nervous, and apprehensive – we just wanted it to work and everything to go well. We had dinner at a restaurant/pub the night before seeing as we were staying in a hotel, it was very good.

Next morning we walked to the hospital, signed in and got ready for the operation. The first part of the process was to collect the baby ingredients.

But nothing about our journey seems to be routine. It didn’t work, we weren’t able to even get the baby ingredients, so we’ll have to go for a more complex extraction procedure, which will cost thousands more in hospital fees. We really can’t afford to pay for this on top of the IVF fees.

We are going to have to wait until our private health insurance kicks in, in October 5 months away. So it won’t be until November when we get another shot at this, they stop doing IVF cycles over the Christmas period, we only have a narrow window in 2016. So if we don’t hit November perfectly, we will have to wait until January or February 2017.

This really, really sucks. It’s already been 2 years since we started this journey and now we are going to have to add another half-year onto that. The tiniest of silver linings is that we will get most of the money we paid for IVF back. We will still be out of pocket for the hospital fee, hotel, drugs, food and petrol we paid for this trip which is upwards of $1,000 in total.

We have no idea how many tries it will take to be successful, so we will have to continue saving our cash into our ‘IVF fund’. We’ll be putting off investing until our IVF has worked and we get our long awaited baby.

 

Thanks for reading this article about our baby journey Down Under.

Onwards and upwards!

47 thoughts on “IVF Baby Progress Update

  1. applena88

    My heart goes out to you. There is nothing more high stakes and personal. What a disappointment. Thanks fur sharing your story and fingers crossed for November.

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Thanks for the comment Applena88 🙂 It’s the biggest thing in our lives right now, and has been for a very long time now. We want the blog to be a great personal finance success story, which it will be, but we have this hurdle to tackle first. Thanks for your luck 🙂

  2. Mr. Tightarse

    I feel for you guys! Glad to see you’re looking for the silver linings and staying positive. Thanks for sharing and I look forward to hearing some better news later in the year!

  3. Financial Slacker

    Thank you for sharing this.

    I feel for you. My brother-in-law and his wife went through IVF. It was a long and expensive process, but their precious little boy made it all worthwhile.

    Interestingly, they thought they would only have one child, but actually got pregnant naturally for the second. It was quite the welcome shock.

    Keep positive. It will work out.

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hey FS, thanks for the comment.

      We are hopeful that we can have success considering we are quite young and there has been a lot of success.

      We believe and we’re focused, so hopefully it will happen for us this year.

  4. ambertreeleaves

    Sorry to hear that it did not work out. Keep positive spirit… I hope you hit the November 2016 spot!

    I know it can be a lot of stress and waiting and bad news. I wish you get soon good and positive news!

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hey ATL, thanks for your comment and your positivity. We will be trying to keep all of ours, just getting pregnant this year will be great. 🙂

  5. Team CF

    It’s an understatement to say this was a very disappointing moment, we wish you all the best in the next attempt.

    Good luck!

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hey CF, thanks for your wishes. It’s impossible to put our disappointment into words, but we are still hopeful. 🙂

      1. Team CF

        And you should, you are young and there still is time!

  6. The Personal Economist

    Oh gosh my heart sank as I read your post. I’m so sorry I’d did not work out. I understand the longing to have a child. Not sure there is anything I can say which doesn’t sound cliche but you have each other and that will help you in these times. Good luck for the next round.

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hey TPE, we really appreciate your kind words and also avoiding cliches. We can feel your support for us in your comment, thank you 🙂

  7. Mrs. PIE

    sorry to hear your news, I saw the title of your post and got all excited for you. All the very best and lots of luck. As my mum would say – it will all work out in the end

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hey Mrs PIE, thanks for commenting 🙂

      Thank you for the luck and hopefully everything works out next time round.

  8. DivHut

    As always, I’m sure we all appreciate your candor and openness with this very personal issue you two are dealing with. Sometimes things will happen when they are supposed to happen and never sooner. Stay positive and know that if it’s meant to be in 2016 it will happen. If not, then as you said, Jan or Feb of ’17. You two seem to be rolling with the punches and I’ll continue to send my best wishes for this happen.

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Thanks for your comment and wishes Keith.

      We are doing the best we can and I hope our readers appreciate our journey as well as why there isn’t that much investing going on at the moment.

  9. DivGuy

    My heart broke when I read it didn’t work out. I wish you get everything set for November so you can have the most amazing Christmas gift!
    Best of luck,
    Mike

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hey Mike,

      Thanks for your comment, I hope your heart is okay now 🙂 Hopefully everything works out for November, we can only do what we can do, so we have to remain positive and cross our fingers.

  10. Our Frugal Escapades

    We are so sorry to hear that you guys are going through this. You have a long road ahead of you, but stay positive and you will get there eventually. Keeping you in our thoughts. – Mrs. FE

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hey Mrs Fe, we really appreciate your comment and positive thoughts for us. Hopefully November is the final phase until a normal pregnancy 🙂

  11. apathyends

    Sorry to hear that – Everything will work out for you guys no matter what path you go down to parenthood!

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hey Apathy, thanks for your comment. We appreciate you coming to the blog and supporting us 🙂

      IVF is our only option for parenthood, so this has to work for us.

  12. J

    I’m sorry about what happened. When I saw the post title, I was so excited to read the rest of the post. My heart goes out to you and I’m sad to know you’re going through this tough time. Good luck for the next round/cycle.

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hey J,

      Thanks for your comment, concern and hope for us 🙂

      It was and is rough, but we’ve already had a lot of sadness through this journey so we are just trying to do what we can, and try to remain strong. November is going to be our time.

  13. ThreeMillionDollarMission

    It doesn’t make it easier, but we take something from every experience. Sometimes we learn how we deal with hardship, including how we communicate and/or support ourselves and family in stressful times. The key is to learn this stuff early and your life will be more enriched! Sounds strange but it’s a gift in tough times. We miscarried our 1st. What’s meant to be will happen. I wish you the best. As a family we always discussed adoption as an option.

    I enjoyed reading your goals. I’d equally enjoy seeing how you will celebrate when you reach them or how you will overcome obstacles you face.

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hi 3MDM,

      We appreciate your comment and wise words. The more we live, the more we see life is not remotely easy. Hopefully everything clicks into place for us in November and it’s easy from there 🙂

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Hey MG, thanks for having a look st our blog and commenting 🙂

      Yes, we are young, very young when we started this process, it’s lucky we knew at such a young age. However I’m glad we did start, because it’s taken 2 years to get to our progress point now. If all goes to plan it’ll take another year and a half till our baby is born. We’d like a 3 ish year gap to our second child..so really we will be in our late 20s when that happens. If we had started when we were later 20s, we might have had to wait until our mid-late 30s for our 2nd child.

  14. Stalflare

    Really sorry to read the post (also because I had this image of IVF being a simple procedure), I send you two lots of big e-hugs from Pizzaland!
    Don’t be downhearted too much, ok that’s a setback, but it’s not the end of the story and from what I read you are really giving it all for this IVF project so there is nothing that you can blame apart from bad luck. So, look positive and November is just 5 months away! Chin up and be strong.
    ciao ciao
    Stal

    1. Dividends Down Under Post author

      Ciao Stal,

      Thanks for the comment and support 🙂

      We are keeping up heads up and won’t be discouraged. Time will slowly tick towards November, we’re just tired of waiting!

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  16. jefmiles

    Man that’s a real bummer, interested to know why you couldn’t get the ingredients although sure it’s not something you want to consider more or talk that much more about..

    All the best for November, I get the feeling you guys will make awesome parents! 🙂

  17. Life we learn

    So sorry about what happened. I can only imagine. I wish you both all the very best and hope it all works out. Try to be positive, I know it’s easier said than done. Sending you both positive vibes.

    1. Dividends Down Under

      Hey LWL,

      For some reason we missed this, thanks for commenting. We appreciate your good wishes and hopefully next time it works out for us 🙂

  18. Michelle

    I’ve only just found your blog, but I wanted to chime in and wish you guys the best of luck. It’s a hard journey you’re on, but one that will be worth all the effort (and expense!) in the end. 🙂
    All the best,
    Michelle

    1. Dividends Down Under

      Hi Michelle, thank you so much for your nice comment. It’s really nice to find another NZ or Aussie blogger 🙂

      Hopefully all the heartache (and money!) will be a far distant memory this time next year, you’re right – it will definitely be worth it.

  19. Humna

    You are such an amazingly strong person to be sharing something so personal so openly and with such grace! I will be praying and sending good wishes your way.

    1. Dividends Down Under

      Thank you Humna for the very caring comment. It means a lot to us to have such supportive people following our journey.

      We really appreciate your nice wishes, we like blogging about our journey because we find it’s a good therapeutic way of dealing with it (though not the only way). We’ll hopefully have a happy story to share eventually 🙂

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